Posts Tagged ‘predators.’
This past week, my brother told me about a 5th Estate episode he watched about online suicides…. that is one way to look at it. I watched this video today, and as they put it in the video, it can also be viewed as online serial murders. I just watched this about 15 minutes ago, and I have found it so disturbing, that I am not even really sure where to start… all I can think about is my children, and that this is what they will be exposed to in another 10 years, except by then, it will probably be something worse… wow!
This case, is about a very promising first year university student, Nadia Kajouji. She started her first year with a very good start, however a little while into the term, she ended up pregnant had a miscarriage and was depressed…. this was the beginning of the end. Because of her depression she had insomnia, at the beginning she was begging counselors and friends for help…. the help never came. After months of struggling for support… She found some support online. She searched about suicide online. Methods; what was effective and what was not, for statistics… suicide was something she thought about, and made an informed decision. However, her decision was influenced. Influenced in a way that no one knew about until it was too late. Over the months she had become mentally, socially and emotionally withdrawn so the people around her did not know that she was being tied into a suicidal world online.
After being on so many suicidal sites and chats online, she became friends with a 20-25 year old woman, who was also suicidal. Her screen name was “Li Dao” (later it was also found that this person also had screen names “falcon girl” and “Cami-D”) Li Dao, was a caring nurse who was in similar age, who also wanted to commit suicide, she was warm towards Nadia, often referring to her as “Hun”. Li Dao, was not only in contact with Nadia, but with an approx 500 others over a term of 5 years. Not all these people comitted suicide, but a known 5 have, and probably many unknown cases as well. Li Dao, encouraged suicide by hanging, going to the extent of telling these teens and young adults exactly what kind or rope to buy from their local Home Depot. Li Dao encouraged them to hang themselves in front of the web cam, telling them that they could do it together in front of their web cams, so they will not be scared and alone.
The reality: Li Dao, Falcon girl and Cami-D, were the same person. Not a 20-25 year old nurse that was depressed… but rather a 46 year old “family man” and a practicing nurse that had 2 daughters also about 20 years old. He was not depressed and had no intention of committing suicide at the same time as the others. He enjoyed watching them do it.
Someone from the UK, had been trying to follow Li Dao, and had tried submitting her information to several police departments in the UK and USA. No one wanted the info… not because it was false, but because Internet crimes are difficult to handle. This lady finally had some luck in Minnesota, where “Li Dao” resided they took the case and did some research, the police had spoken to him and of course he denied everything. He went to emergency and admitted that he aided other people online to commit suicide, the police after almost 2 years, have not pressed charges or arrested him.
He is still online. Perhaps under another name, perhaps not. Nadia, she was found in Rideau river 6 weeks after she jumped.
This is just one story about online predators. There are many. Beware, be careful, teach your kids, monitor what they do and who they talk to… and in a situation like this, talk to them. In this case, Nadia did not want to talk to her parents… have someone else talk to them, a girlfriend of yours… do whatever you can to find out what is happening…
After watching the nightly news, many of us think that the world is a cruel place, the online world can be even worse!
RIP Nadia Kajouji 1989-2008.
A few people have recently been asking me about the safety of their kids online. How long do kids usually play online – are there kids over doing it? Since it is summer, some parents are seeing the online addiction shining through their kids. I am going to post some interesting stats that I have come across over the last few months.
- Kids between 10-14 years old usually spend 6-10 hours online per week.
- The majority of teenagers’ online use occurs at home, right after school, when working parents are not at home.
- 43% of children said they do not have rules about Internet use in their homes. - please note that I think this number is WAY to high. Everyone has rules about lots of different things in their homes, Internet Safety should be one of them.
- 1/3 of youth have been asked to meet somewhere, speak on the phone or send money /gifts via the postal system by a predator.
- 75% of children are willing to share personal information online about themselves and their family in exchange for goods and services.
- 90% of Internet traffic is pornography related.
- Sex is the #1 searched for topic on the Internet.
- Pornographic web pages now top 260 million and growing at an unprecedented rate.
- 11 is the average age of a child’s first experience with pornography. 90% 8-16 year olds have viewed porn online. 79% of these teens did so from their school library. 67% of these teens did so from their own home.
- 1/5 teenagers who regularly log on to the Internet say that they have received an unwanted sexual solicitation. Solicitations are defined as a request to engage in sexual activity, talk or to provide personal sexual information.
- 25% of youth who encountered a sexual approach told a parent.
- 27% of online teens reported that they have talked about sex online with someone they have never met in person.
- 26 popular children’s characters, such as Pokemon, My Little Pony and Action Man, revealed thousands of links to porn sites. 30% were hard-core. - this stat shocked me. My Little Pony is one of my daughter’s favorite sites. I am not worried, because of PurePages Internet, but what if we didn’t?
These stats may have raised an eyebrow when you were reading them… now think, by the time you have finished reading this blog, those numbers have only increased.
Do you remember the first time you saw an X-rated magazine? Was it exciting or scary – hmm, perhaps a bit of both… well, what if you saw these imagines, online, a place where you go to hang out and play? These images can stay with a child forever… as adults we don’t look at it that way, but as a young child, its like seeing two animals kill each other -lol! Its mind boggling!
Again, as I have said so many times before, just keep an eye on your kids. If you start monitoring them when they are young it will be second nature to them and they will not know any different.
If you have tweens and you notice any of the following… start looking a bit more closely as they are signs of being “friends” with a predator.
• Spends a lot of time online
• Find porn on the computer
• Receives phone calls, mail, gifts from unknown people
• Withdraws from normal activity
• Switches screen quickly (Alt+Tab)
• Uses other accounts for e-mail or Instant Messaging
If you wish to sit down and show your kids some Internet Safety videos, please visit http://www.internet101.ca/. They have great videos that really make you think about your safety. We often show these at our presentations and many of the Police officers do as well.
If you have any specific concerns please contact me.